Tuesday, October 23, 2012

Forced Marriages are Un-Islamic

Nayzak


Assalaamu alaikum [Peace be to you],

Today, I'd like to talk a little about marriage. some people see forced marriages happening in some Muslim families and they conclude that this kind of practice is religiously acceptable in Islam. let's have a look at what Islam has to say in this...


the Almighty Allah, the God, is the one who has ordained marriage for mankind. He has placed within marriage the blessings of comfort, love, and mercy. The God said in his final revelation:
وَمِنْ آيَاتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَاجًا لِّتَسْكُنُوا إِلَيْهَا وَجَعَلَ بَيْنَكُم مَّوَدَّةً وَرَحْمَةً ۚ إِنَّ فِي ذَٰلِكَ لَآيَاتٍ لِّقَوْمٍ يَتَفَكَّرُونَ
"And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquillity in them; and He placed between you love and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought."
translation of verse 30:21
For this reason, Allah had made one of the essential pillars of the marriage contract that both the husband and the wife are willing parties to the marriage. This is the essence of the offer and acceptance in the marriage contract. It is not possible to contract a legal marriage in Islam without the willing consent of two legally accountable people of sound mind.

As for the customs and traditions that exist in some parts of the world requiring people to marry others who are chosen for them, these customs are not Islamic. No one can be obliged to follow them. No man can be obliged to marry any woman against his will. Likewise, no woman can be forced to marry any man against her will.

The Sunnah (sayings and doings of the prophet Mohammed -peace be upon him-) provides us with a considerable amount of evidence for the legal necessity of the consent of both parties to the marriage. for example, it is narrated that once, a woman came to the Prophet -peace be upon him- and said: “O Messenger of Allah, my father married me to my cousin in order to raise his social standing, but I do not want to be married to him.” The Prophet gave her the option of annulment. At this point, she said: “I have already reconciled myself to my father’s decision, but I just wanted it to be known that women have a say in the matter.”

Though a child must generally obey his or her parents, this obedience does not extend to marrying an unwanted partner in life. Islamic Law permits a son or daughter to refuse entering into any marriage he or she is displeased with, no matter what their reason for refusing might be. Without a doubt, it is better to refuse to get married from the outset than to place oneself into an unhappy marriage. There is no reason for the people to subject themselves to an unhappy home life or to an unstable marriage which might very well end in a stressful and messy divorce.

If a man knows that the family of his bride to be is coercing her to marrying him, then that man must himself refuse to enter into the marriage. It is not lawful for him to marry a woman he knows is unwilling. Such a marriage has a contractual defect in it, since the willing consent of both parties is part of the contractual basis of a lawful marriage in Islam – even if that marriage takes place in a court of law at the behest of the woman's legal guardian.
No one should enter into a marriage unless he or she is perfectly satisfied with it and resolved to it. The consent of both the man and the woman must be utterly free. This is the way to ensure that their married life has a good chance of happiness and not be a source of continual grief for the couple and for their respective families.

from an article by Sheikh `Alî Bâdahdah [link] with a little editing

I hope this was beneficial.


if I am right, it's from the God. if I am wrong, it's from myself.

Wassalaamu alaikum